I met an unusual young man last week. I went to his house to evaluate whether we could provide an accessible computer system for him. His home is clean, his family is financially poor, and the rental house they live in needs a lot of work. The young man doesn’t have a good education. To make matters worse, he was shot while riding in a car and is now a quadriplegic. As we talked about his goals he told me that he wants to sell used cars. He likes doing this and has experience at it. One of his neighbors taught him the strategy he uses for selecting cars, however this neighbor was killed in a separate shooting a few months ago. As we talked and goofed around, I found it very easy to like this young man and his family. They have had a hard life, but they are good people.
Later in the week I was in a discussion with people who are well-to-do (like me) but have an attitude of scarcity. What I mean by this is that they don’t think they have enough and they have to be careful not to lose what they have. As I listened to them I became aware of just how much I have. Not just the “stuff” I have, but the people who are in my corner – people who are generous and caring to me. I became aware of the abundance around me and I was overwhelmed with gratitude.
It is easy to fall into the attitude that there is not enough. When I fall into this trap, I feel small and insecure. I worry. But there is another way of looking at the world without having to change anything. I am not wealthy by most standards, but I have more than enough. And the more I give, the more I have, the bigger I feel, and the more secure I feel. It doesn’t seem logical, but I’m sure it is true. As I give, the people around me give to me, and instead of having less, I have even more! I am surrounded by people who are generous and caring – to InvoTek, to the Be Extraordinary program, and to our clients. I’m not saying we couldn’t use more resources to meet the need – we could. But the people around me enable us to achieve the extraordinary. I can focus on what I don’t have and be small, or I can focus on the abundance and feel gifted. It is really my choice.
Thanks to all of you who have given me so much. And yes, we have enough to give to the young man I met last week. We really look forward to working with him.